Monica’s warm and engaging speaking style is helping to bridge the silence that is so pervasive for those dealing with disease, loss, and crisis.

The calendars we keep … paper, digital, pure memory

Dates on the calendar. Sometimes you want to skip them or flip them off … or stay in that moment a little longer. ...more

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December 08, 20253 min read

The calendars we keep … paper, digital, pure memory

Committed to memory: Three vital life lessons from a caregiver

Ever revisit a photo that speaks a million, not just 1,000, words? ...more

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December 04, 20255 min read

Committed to memory: Three vital life lessons from a caregiver

When things are too hot to handle

Are there days when you feel like you’ve reached your boiling point? When your potential temper feels hotter than the reddest sunset? Hot days can lead to hot ways … ...more

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December 04, 20253 min read

When things are too hot to handle

We are all at risk of falling and failing

Yes, we’re in the period of fall risk … my husband Roger from his knee replacement surgery on Friday and me … just being a klutz. No, neither of us has fallen … though the cats are just waiting for a ... ...more

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December 04, 20252 min read

We are all at risk of falling and failing

The two hours that saved me from myself

May you be blessed with discovering new ways of giving thanks on this day … ...more

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December 04, 20253 min read

The two hours that saved me from myself

Can you hear your calling above all the noise?

I’ve never seen so many earphone options in my life as in the marketplace today … tiny, big, over the ear, large enough to hide your ears from view and give the impression you could have alien origins... ...more

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December 04, 20252 min read

Can you hear your calling above all the noise?

All the chapters that must be written

I remember our walk through Glen Oak Park when Mom came to Peoria for a visit around 1990. ...more

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December 04, 20253 min read

All the chapters that must be written

Think of place, time, surroundings before you say these two words

I need and want to apologize again for what I said upon my return home on the 22nd day of my camp work Tuesday. ...more

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September 30, 20253 min read

Think of place, time, surroundings before you say these two words

For us born fixers, it’s heartbreaking when you can’t fix someone you love

Dad and Mom spent countless hours remodeling our house in the late 60’s, and fixing little things along the way that needed attention. Mom did a lot of fixing before preparing the house to be sold in ... ...more

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September 28, 20253 min read

For us born fixers, it’s heartbreaking when you can’t fix someone you love

Taking responsibility for our excuses with photographic proof

Ever try to explain why you do what you do … something carried over from your childhood … and you wish you had “proof” to illustrate your “excuses”? ...more

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August 17, 20254 min read

Taking responsibility for our excuses with photographic proof

Life is a beach … or so I learned from a dear friend of mine …

Fumbling my front door key, I heard the telephone ring inside. As I turned the knob, I heard the familiar voice leaving a message. ...more

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August 15, 20257 min read

Life is a beach … or so I learned from a dear friend of mine …

The cruelty of Alzheimer’s: “It’s tough not knowing how fast it’s going to go”

A memory from more than a dozen years ago is as vivid as the day it all happened … ...more

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August 14, 20256 min read

The cruelty of Alzheimer’s: “It’s tough not knowing how fast it’s going to go”

Mothers and daughters: Chapter 1,042,099

two years few yAren’t some of the best finds in life when you’re searching for something else … then you forget the subject of your original hunt? ...more

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August 11, 20253 min read

Mothers and daughters: Chapter 1,042,099

Even on your lowest day, someone else has a rougher ride in life

Monica and her parents in 1975. ...more

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June 27, 20252 min read

Even on your lowest day, someone else has a rougher ride in life

Facts to live by: You can’t survive a loved one’s Alzheimer’s or dementia by yourself

When I wrote a book on coping with the emotional and everyday challenges of Alzheimer’s, dementia and memory loss in 2008, I had no idea how much I’d rely on my own words two years later. ...more

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March 11, 20245 min read

Facts to live by: You can’t survive a loved one’s Alzheimer’s or dementia by yourself

Miscommunication propels the evil plot into action

On those days when you don’t love yourself, force your eyes open to see the vision and love that others have of you. ...more

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October 16, 20224 min read

Miscommunication propels the evil plot into action

Your rat is my mother-in-law

While talking with a coach friend, I shared how I was back to writing more, and feeling alive again as my soul explodes with ink. ...more

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October 14, 20224 min read

Your rat is my mother-in-law

All the ways you can connect with a dead ancestor

I often flip through Mom’s small desk calendar, and this week noted one of her annual dates to remember, the passing of her mother in 1944, when Mom was a month shy of her fifth birthday. ...more

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October 08, 20225 min read

All the ways you can connect with a dead ancestor

Your final chapter isn’t just about you

Monica speaking at her mother’s celebration of life in July 2018. ...more

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October 06, 20224 min read

Your final chapter isn’t just about you

I’m not rejecting you: this is just how I roll

Everyone should attend a class on real life and engage with a stroke or brain injury survivor. It’s amazing what you can AND should learn about them … AND yourself. I absorb volumes every chance I get... ...more

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October 04, 20224 min read

I’m not rejecting you: this is just how I roll

About Monica

A former weekly newspaper reporter and editor, Monica Vest Wheeler focuses on coping with and surviving the everyday and emotional challenges of brain-related injuries, illnesses and diseases.

In addition to co-authoring a book on coping with cancer, Monica has written about Alzheimer’s in “Alzheimer’s, Dementia & Memory Loss: Straight Talk for Families & Caregivers,” one of the books in her Help Me Cope & Survive! series. Her latest projects in the series focus on coping with the daily challenges of stroke, brain injuries and brain tumors-brain cancer.

She’s spent thousands of hours working with and interviewing hundreds of patients, survivors, families and caregivers, and healthcare professionals, and interviewed individuals affected by the horrors of the Holocaust and intolerance. She’s given dozens of presentations on ways to cope with the emotions of catastrophic injuries, illnesses and diseases; the Holocaust and tolerance; the need to communicate; ways to express emotions on paper and verbally, how to use family history to better understand oneself and family today; and much more. She’s also interviewed individuals affected by the horrors of the Holocaust and intolerance.

Monica’s warm and engaging style is helping to bridge the silence that is so pervasive for those dealing with disease, loss and crisis..

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